I wrote on this topic briefly before, inspired by the way being a Mother is one of the ways women connect. This role provides common ground among many women. I also touched on the idea that being a Mother does not necessarily mean mothering human, or even live beings, but can be about creation.
In this post I want to continue to theme of looking at the Mother through the lens of the triple deity, Maiden, Mother and Crone.
The Mother energy is one of nurturing, creating, growing. In balance this energy is grounded and earthy. Like roots growing into rich soil, providing nurturing to the plant or tree above. When we think of the Mother and the moon cycles, we find her correlating with the fullness of the moon and its bright glow. The Mother is connected to Summer and the ripe juicy abundance of the crops that come into being during this season.
Perhaps you are a Mother of a human child. You will know then that Motherhood asks for much giving and patience and that this job is possibly the hardest of all tasks we are asked to do on this plane. The archetypal energy of the Mother is one that can require sacrifice that at times can lead to depletion.
When we are “mothering” anything, whether it is a person, or a project, or a fur baby, or a friend we might find that we must set our own needs aside in order to tend to the needs of others. The flip side of this is that raising, creating, and birthing (beings or ideas) into being can be extremely rewarding and Heartful!
The Mother is powerful!
As such, we also expect a lot from the Mother. If you think of child, parent interactions, you may be able to call up the image of a toddler raging against a mom (maybe they didn’t get their way, or maybe they are overly tired, there are a lot of reasons why this happens.), and at the same time they are raging and pushing against the Mother they are also needing her to hold and contain. This is a demanding position and one that asks the Mother to step back enough to be able to hold boundaries and nurture simultaneously.
Our view of and our personal embodiment of the Mother are influenced by our own experiences with being “mothered”. Reflecting on your own experience of being Mothered you may find some shadow energy. Not everyone has a positive relationship with their Mother and this can lead to wounds or manifestations of Mother Shadow energy in our own psyche.
Some of the ways this shadow energy might manifest are in the form of martyrdom, over-mothering, or neglectfulness.
Regardless of whether or not you are a Mother, you carry Mother energy in your being throughout all stages of your life. How do you embody this in your life?
Emily Morrison MA, MFT