You may have noticed in your own life how many people retreat from anger, or quickly try to “fix” whatever is causing it. My Dad though could always meet mine. Either with his own or with permission to have my anger, he did not shy away or immediately go into fix it mode.
This was a gift he gave me. By meeting me where I was at, the message I got was that it was ok to have my anger. I also learned to push against his and to not hide from the anger other people were feeling.
As a result I can usually tolerate anger in myself and in others.
Sometimes we need an ally to help support us in our rage. Someone to meet us there and help us channel it and transmute it.
These allies could be living people or deceased loved ones. They might be deities or fictional characters. They will be the energies that stand beside you in your rage. They will help you tolerate the sensation and move it through.
Not sure where to turn?
Here are a couple suggestions-
1.Sekhmet is the Egyptian warrior goddess of war, destruction and conversely healing and she is a psychopomp. Her role is one of protection and yet she is also a powerful force of destruction. Two sides of the same coin.
She is a solar goddess and often depicted as having the head of a lion.
In one story we find Sekhmet in a rage where she goes on a killing spree (uncontained rage), she gets so carried away she is destroying all of humanity. Ra the sun god puts a mixture of ale and pomegranate juice in her path and mistaking it for blood she drinks it. Her rage is quieted once she sleeps off this brew.
According to Amy Sophia Marashinksy in the Goddess Oracle, Sekhmet is here to remind us of the power of our anger and that “Rage is accumulated anger gone out of control”. Sekhmet invites us to embrace our anger and give it voice before it becomes rage. She invites us to make anger itself our ally.
2. Kali is the Hindu goddess of war, destruction, anger, time, change and power. She is born from the anger of the goddess Durga and becomes a protector and destroyer. She is fierce and unyielding.
Kali is an ally not only in your anger but also in facing your fears. So often our anger and rage can be scary for us. It can feel overwhelming and uncontrollable. Kali can lend you her strength to embody your anger, to help you move it through and to not run from it (or the anger you experience from others).
When we find allies in anger we feel supported in our experience. We do not need to quash our anger or hide from it. But we do need to learn how to channel it and work with it in ways that are not self destructive or harmful to others.
What is your relationship with your anger?
Who in your life can meet you in your anger?
What stories do you hold about anger?
Want to work some anger magic?
Come to the Honoring Sacred Rage Circle. This virtual event creates a sacred and safe space to explore the journey of frustration to rage, to move these energies and understand your relationship to them.
Using the tools of Tarot, meditation and movement along with some good old fashioned self exploration, we unlock our rage and give it room to transform.
You will learn magical and mundane practices to help you with this process and will leave this hour and a half gathering with new tools for your toolbox.
We gather Friday August 12th at 4 pm PT on Zoom.
Karena Osborne of the Witch’s Inn and I will be co-hosting this event.
Sliding scale with a base rate of $33 Canadian. 10% of the profits will be donated to Planned Parenthood.
See you in the Circle!
Emily Morrison MA, MFT